I have tried this both ways now, and it feels amazing. I don’t have that much bottom growth, but when you have the right amount of lube, the suction is incredible. It feels like nothing I’ve ever felt before. Plus there’s the empowerment of how realistic it looks and feels. The only downsides for me are that the suction is quite difficult to get right (too much moisture is just as bad as too little), and for some reason the texture of the head has become tacky. I just use warm tap water and dish soap to clean it, so not sure about why that might be. But overall, I finally feel like I can experience everything I want out of sex, and it feels amazing. I am incredibly grateful.