How To Use Stp FTM | A Guide for Trans Men & Nonbinary People

The first tip is to practice in the shower to get used to your anatomy and feel comfortable and confident. Often you need to understand the angle and positioning you need to make sure you stay clean and dry.

3. Step-by-Step: How To Use an STP

A. Positioning the Device

Try keeping the prosthetic level with your body and if you have a cup area, be sure to keep it snug against you. Adjust your placement to prevent leaks or spills as some people’s urethra (the hole that pee comes out of) is in line with the product.

B. What if you really gotta GO? Controlling the Flow

At first, when practicing start with a slow stream to test positioning and this will also indicate to you where your urethra is. Keep the cup parallel to the ground so gravity can help you out! If you’re having backflow, often you might need to tilt the shaft or cup forward more so it goes away from you and not back into your pants.

C. Adjusting for Comfort

The most important part of this process is making sure you are COMFORTABLE. Does it feel secure? Is it too big of an imprint to wear regularly? Are you leaning at a weird angle? Try different methods of leaning and standing above the toilet. Often users straddle the seat for an easy flow straight down!

4. Practicing for Public Use

Being ready for a public try at the restroom can be intimidating, especially for trans people who are already often nervous to use the restroom due to the hateful rhetoric spread about us.

Have you heard the horror stories of packers falling out in the bathroom? Or peeing your pants as an adult? Be sure to start trying at your house, then an individual private restroom, THEN try the public restroom stall and then try the urinal. Uless you are just SUPER confident! Don't forget to make it easy on yourself by wearing underwear with easy access too.

5. Cleaning & Maintenance

We also need to be sanitary. Be sure to wash your product daily at least at the end of the day with soap and water. Also, find a spot to store your best friend til morning so you can let your body and prosthetic all air out.

6. Troubleshooting Common Issues

Whether you're experiencing leaks, splash-back, or lacking confidence, there are a variety of brands that offer support to help you learn how to stand to pee. I'd encourage you to be kind to yourself as you learn and take breaks as needed. There's no rush and you’ll have a lot more success by being patient with your body and mind instead of acting on any frustration you might feel! You are worthy of using the restroom comfortably. You are worthy of feeling affirmed. You are worthy of confidence and being treated as an equal. And I’m here to remind you of that.

Ps. Here are some additional resources for you to contact if you’re in crisis or need:

Transgender people in crisis should contact the following resources: 

• The Trevor Project‘s 24/7/365 Lifeline at 866-4-U-TREVOR (866-488-7386) or TrevorChat, their online instant messaging option, or TrevorText, a text-based support option. If you are looking for peer support, you can visit TrevorSpace from anywhere in the world.

• The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 800-273-TALK (8255)

• Trans Lifeline at 877-565-8860

About the Author: Aaron Capener

Hey new friend! I’m a transgender content creator and media business owner in a small town in Tennessee. I feel especially called to share my experiences to help other people learn how to also live their lives as their most authentic selves. I’ve been on testosterone since 2017, had top surgery in 2023 and have been using these experiences to share guidance with those in need around me. Married, and now a father, I’m so thankful to have made it to the place in my life I thought was impossible to reach. And now I’m ready to help others achieve the same happiness that everyone is worthy of.